Twerk On/Twerk Off
Twerk On/Twerk Off
I was 12 when I began reading Glamour magazine. Now that I’m north of
forty, I pick up a copy when the cover model is thirty and up.
Thankfully Editor-in- Chief, Cindi Lieve has had a number of cover
models who are or very near my age.
The January
issue featured 20. Major Don’t: The Pornification of Everything by
actress and writer, Rashida Jones who after spending time catching up on
videos, Instagram and blogs with her sisters noticed the prevailing
theme of twerking, stripper poles, G-strings and boobs wasn’t being
pushed by people trying to get noticed but the already established
mainstream stars. Leading her to say making your private parts public is
now cool and expected. Ms. Jones said she didn’t get the memo and she’s
not alone. I didn't either,
It was during the halftime performance of
the Thanksgiving Day football game with the Detroit Lions when a 21
year-old Selena Gomez performed in a skimpy outfit in what had to be
cold temperatures. To clarify, she wasn’t half naked but her outfit was
more suited for the beach than Detroit, Michigan in November. Some may
think we’re jealous because we’re older women now but let me tell you
from the time I was 16 to 23 to put it in today’s terms I was hot in a
pair of jeans and a shirt. I didn’t have to put my boobs on parade. I
also had parents to make sure all my seams, hems, zippers and buttons
were in place.
Like Ms. Jones, I am not a prude when
it comes to sex. Although, I’m a mother to twin twenty-something sons,
I’m comfortable with sexuality and have no problems discussing it in a
frank, open manner. Although I am pretty sure my sons would prefer if
I’d use a filter. I love my sons but not going to happen.
I’m older than Ms. Jones but I remember when Duran Duran’s Girl’s
on Film video was too racy for MTV. By today’s standards it might as
well be Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood. Topless models with flesh colored
G-strings, naked girls riding construction equipment, grabbing one’s
vagina for a video or concert (makes me feel bad for all the hell the
late Michael Jackson went through) is the norm. While everyone talks
about the initial act it only lasts a minute. Why else would these
artists be in such a hurry to put out another even more revealing video
out? Chris Rock said it best “Here today. Gone today.”
I’m from Generation X which places me in the midst of the
women’s movement and feminism. Gloria founded Ms. Magazine and Bella
Abzug fought for women’s rights, equality in workplace, equal pay for
equal work and the right to make decisions about our bodies. In a way
all this gyrating, grinding and pasties is a step forward in owning
sexuality. Conversely, it runs the risk of defining us by our sexuality
as well even though we have the right to express it. In the movie The
Accused, Jodie Foster portrayed Sarah Tobias a hard partying girl who is
gang raped by three men and instead of putting the rapists on trial,
Sarah’s character and past as a party girl is put on trial in an attempt
to make her responsible for her rape. Granted it was a movie but it was
based on a real life case.
I want to shake some of
these women and tell them their actions have consequences as there is a
whole generation of young girls looking to them as role models. Miley
Cyrus and Selena Gomez are from the Disney family. I imagine they are
trying to break free of the Mickey Mouse image now that they’re adults
and I get it. I hate to tell you but those same girls who watched you on
the Disney channel are still watching and taking it all in.
While I could continue to point fingers at the pop stars, I have to call
parents on the carpet too. They have a responsibility to monitor what
their daughters watch and to be a role model for them everyday at home. As easy as it is to blame Nikki Minaj, Rihanna, Miley, Selena and Kim
Khardashian, parents can’t abdicate their role to slow the growing
pornification of everything in their homes. Watch the little dancing/gyrating vignettes in between Disney shows then remember that Ed Sullivan could only show Elvis from the waist up on his variety show. As a parent. I feel for you.
Our children believe we were born fully formed from the head of Zeus
and were never teenagers. We couldn't possibly imagine what it's like if you're not emulating the latest pop star du jour. I remember when my best friend and I wanted to imitate Madonna's eighties look. Our parents collectively said no. We had to live with not being cool then but it's great not having photos our children can blackmail us with now. Stick to your guns. I know it isn't easy and they'll hate you forever ( approximately a week last I checked) I promise. Everyone will live.
However when
she addressed pop stars, Ms. Jones urged them to stop saying they don’t
want to be role models because they are. I believe as the daughter of
Quincy Jones, she knows what she's talking about. Many pop and reality
stars have clothing lines, perfumes and other products they promote on
television and on the racks at Kmart, Walmart and Sears. Obviously
teens don't have discretionary income. Therefore they are after mom and
dad's money, which means they have to accept everything that comes with
it beyond dollars and cents.
Like Ms. Jones, I'm expressing and
opinion and not the gospel. You have the right to do and say what you
want. Nevertheless, I'm afraid we are getting awfully close to shouting
"Fire!" in a crowded theater.
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