Friday, December 13, 2013

The American Dream: Is it time to remember to let others share in the dream beyond the season of giving?



As I inch closer to the AARP grid, I can’t help but reflect on what celebrity, politics and pop culture looked like when I was growing up. Breaking into anything required hard work and took time. Some were lucky and didn’t have to work so hard. While others paid their dues to earn a place in their chosen field. The common goal was getting their heavenly slice of the American dream and leave  enough for the next dreamer.
                Now it seems we’ve forgotten what it means to share and let others get a piece of pie. I remember when models made the covers of magazines and were in commercial and editorial spreads. Models have been replaced by some award winning and A-list actresses in print and commercials for hair products, makeup and more. I am beginning to think that perhaps we’re being too hard on skinny models. They may not be skinny by choice as more of them are competing for fewer opportunities.

                Then there are the artists. Whether it’s music, writing, painting, photography, culinary or fashion, people who have spent years honing their craft are being eclipsed by celebrities. Not 15 years ago, Kathie Lee Gifford, Jacklyn Smith and a few other celebrities had clothing lines in Kmart but now Nikki Minaj, Miley Cyrus, Jennifer Lopez, Jay-Z and Sean Combs are in your local department stores next to Michael Kors, Kenneth Cole, Ralph Lauren and Liz Claiborne. Though they've attained their goal the rush to diversification is squeezing the men and women trying to climb the mountain to reach their dream for a better life doing what they love harder to reach.

                I am not that religious but in a country that talks about God, Jesus, sacrifice and good will to all men it seems hypocritical to cut others off when you’ve got yours and then some. We see it in Washington when elected officials fight for people who have plenty of money and want to find ways to keep more of it while putting the burden on the middle class and taking funding away from people in need. People on unemployment aren’t at home watching soaps waiting for a check that’s half of what they made when they worked. They are looking for jobs. SNAP recipients aren’t eating filet mignon on 180.00 a month, but they cut that too. What I find ironic is in about 3 weeks a deluge of ads for weight loss programs, gyms and nutritional supplements will be upon us. However those who receive less than 200.00 a month in SNAP benefits know they can't afford to buy the healthy stuff for their families and stretch their pantries out for a month. Instead they're faced with the over processed, sugar, sodium and fat loaded food in the store. Yet with the loopholes for the rich to get richer, they can afford to be healthier with organic fresh vegetables, gluten free, low sodium, high protein foods to benefit their bodies while regular folks try to buy just enough of the healthy stuff and still pay their electric and heating bills.

                This isn’t a case of sour grapes. I applaud people who were committed to make their dreams of being a singer, dancer, professional athlete, actor, author, model, chef, radio host, television host, news reporter and even those who aspired to be politicians. The list is too numerous to go on. A story comes to mind but I’m not sure if this is a Hollywood myth or not. Wil Smith and his father just as his star truly began to rise. Apparently he was proudly showing his father all the great cars he bought that he loved as a kid from Philadelphia. While I am sure his father was indeed proud of him he asked “Just how many asses do you have?” It made me chuckle but it gave me food for thought. Just how much is too much? I’m sure the celebrities with clothing lines, perfumes and the like were approached by companies who wanted to use their celebrity to sell whatever but when do you say no? Someone moved over to give them room at the table. Why can’t they do the same? I know of so many talented singers, models, dancers, stylists, designers, song writers and authors who can’t get a shot at showing the world their talent. I know there are ways to do it online. Post something to You Tube and hope you go viral. The problem is everyone is trying to go viral. You can pay someone to help you with PR but that costs quite a bit of money. If you’re like me with over 4,000.00 in medication costs monthly due to MS it's a check I can't write.


                The 1st anniversary of Newtown tomorrow gave me pause to sit down and write this blog. Those precious lives young and old won’t be at the table to get their piece of the American dream. We don’t know how many would have gone on to become doctors, lawyers, vets, singers, nurses, researchers, artists, chefs, authors, designers, Congressman, Senators or even a future President of the United States. It’s the dreams left unwritten that saddens and yet empowers me to press forward as an author and writer until I get a slice of the American dream.It's funny that I'm not talking about a quarter slice, most would take less than an eighth and be satisfied.  Moreover, I hope for the day when I’m able to pay it forward.

                In the end it’s about our humanity. I believe those living the dream are sharing it with family, donating their time and money to charitable causes. They head out on the stump to support politicians who reflect their values. At the end of the day if you can close your eyes knowing you've taken care of your family and future generations it's time to pass the baton and give someone who works hard a chance to do it too.

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